Have you ever heard of the saying,
“Put on your own oxygen mask first?”
I remember the first time I heard this. I was 20, and traveling by myself for the first time. Waiting for my flight to take off, I was listening to the flight attendant going over safety protocol.
After the amazement of learning that my seat cushion could double as a floatation device, the flight attendant went over what to do in case there was loss of cabin pressure.
“Oxygen masks will drop down….and, before assisting others, please put your own mask on first”
I thought that was the craziest thing I had ever heard… How could I be so selfish and help myself before helping someone else first?
It was later explained to me the reasoning behind that statement:
It's NOT a good thing trying to help someone to breathe while you are gasping for air yourself.
I thought to myself, “I am going to live by that!”
And I spent years of what I believed was taking care of me first
I ate the right foods, went to the gym, meditated from time to time, and even had a regular yoga practice.
But, I had a deep, dark, secret...
I was someone who said yes, when I really meant no.
I was afraid of letting anyone down.
And I felt guilty asking for help because that would make me feel like a failure.
And if I did ask for help, things never got done the “right” way anyway.
Years of putting too much on my plate
left me miserable, short tempered, and exhausted.
And I took out my frustration on the people I loved.
On a regular basis the shit would hit the fan and I would loose it.
After one grandiose “shit hit the fan” incident someone close to me
called me out on how I was acting.
It was time to figure out what I could do to stop living like a
ticking time bomb exploding on a moments notice.
I came up with a plan, and put it into action.
Little by little, the guilt, and putting everyone else’s needs before my own,
seemed to melt away.
And I am ok with saying no when I need to
I still like to do things myself, but I ask for help when I need it.
And now I rarely fly off the handle when the shit hits the fan
Self Care is not something I do, It's how I live my life
I discovered that you can take better care of yourself.
And still be there (and be better!) for the people that matter most in your life.
As a certified life coach specializing in self care, I have helped women just like you take better care of themselves, and become an even better partner, family member and friend.
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