Have you ever wanted to get out of a rut, but something was stopping you? You know something is holding you back...but what? I hear this a lot; from my clients and just conversations in general ...when I ask them what is holding them back from doing what they want, and having the life they want, the number one reason they give is, "Me... I am the one who is holding myself back" I know that feeling all too well because I have been there too. I am a very intuitive person, and I would always go with my "gut instinct". Seems like the right thing to do...right? But is our gut always right? Not necessairly. Where did this come from? Based on the stories I told myself about what happened in my life, I had a preconceived notion that people were automatically judging me, even if they didn't know me. I am also an empath; I pick up on other peoples energy, and take their energy as something either directed toward me, or as my own energy, (As a child, I would sense a "feeling" from my parents, as if they were angry with me, but when I asked them if they were, they would say, "No, of course not, honey.") And to avoid getting hurt, I started to withdraw and play it safe, and I conditioned myself that this was the way to be; withdrawing felt like the norm, so whenever I tried to change, I would get that "uncomfortable gut feeling," to stop what i was doing, so I wouldn't get hurt. It was all a defense mechanism; to keep me safe. And it did; but at what cost? You see, we might be mistaking that "gut instinct" feeling with something else...hiding from change Shying away, playing small, comparing myself to others, and not letting people see the real me. My gut saying to stay away and I did. And it cost me. It cost me realtionships, it cost me time, it cost me money, and at times, my self esteem. Does this at all sound familiar? This might be you if you
Compare yourself to othersPut off going to the beach, or go swimming because you don't want to put on a bathing suitPut off going places because, you don't have anything to wearDon't want to tell someone something, either at work, or in your personal life because, "It won't make a difference anyway."Tell yourself you are too busy to do something..and.you'll do it laterProcrastinateAre a perfectionistTell yourself that when you get the time, or the money, you will do the thing you are most passionate about
I hear you! I was there 100%; I would tell myself things like,
My gut told me that wasn't a good ideaWhat I have to say is not interesting enoughI do have something exciting to share, but that would sound like I am bragging My body isn't perfect enough to put on a bathing suitWhen I feel confident enough, then I will share my storyWhen it's perfect then I will be happy
This is complete and utter bullsh*t and it keeps us small. And I wasn't buying into it anymore And you shoudln't either! So I challenge you to start to regain trust in yourself by doing one thing today that makes you feel uncomfortable You know the feeling that I am taking about; the tiny knot or twinge you feel somewhere in your body at the mere thought of it! And a great way to build trust that what you are doing is for your own good, and not your demise, ask yourself..By doing this one thing, could it cause harm to myself or someone else? And if the answer is no... Then go for it! Rinse and repeat!